Insights - #25

You can become what you want to be. It's a matter of planting the seeds to get the desired harvests and it also depends on the choices you make and the wisdom behind them ...

Insights - # 24

On the saying, "I can forgive but not forget", forgiving can only be truly achieved by a well cultivated mind. Otherwise, so long as the thought is not forgotten, there's always the chance of not forgiving ...

Insights - # 23

Hope is not just a consolation for the hope-less. As all situations are non-permanent, it gives one the strength to reach the point of change …

Insights - # 22

To put it simply, all things are neither good nor bad. It all depends on whether one feels good or bad about those things and whether one follows the majority of people who believes or feels good or bad about them …

Insights - # 21

If most of the things we want in life are derived from and can only be obtained from people, it pays to be kind, courteous and thankful to them, in the least …

Insights - # 20

If you think your boss is imperfect, you could probably be right. No person is perfect and if there are, you won’t learn anything from them. We need imperfection to understand the true nature of perfection and to practice it …

On Leadership

Born and true leaders are selfless. They realize and understand that they can only succeed if their team succeeds in tandem. The frauds and egocentric wannabes are selfish, who only want to succeed at the expense of others. They tend to replace people without realizing their potential to help them. In doing so, they put themselves in the queue to be replaced …

Insights - # 19

Some get help without asking while others have to ask. Some have to use their power and position to get help while the rest can’t get help at all, even though they beg. These are results of the degree of giving and sharing without expectations …

Insights - #18

The wise realizes the need and importance of building bridges, whereas the foolish only knows how to burn them …

Insights - #17

Basically, there are no bad people, only badly brought-up people. It can also go to say; there are no bad students, only bad teachers …

Insights - #16

If you want to change your life, change your attitude first. The rest will follow …

Insights - #15

Enlightenment does not mean you will be wise, happy or tranquil. It means you're wisdom, happiness and tranquility in itself ... A simple example, say, you receive a large monetary windfall and become very happy, and the feeling lasts until the money runs out. That's the happiness most of us refer to. When you're enlightened, you are the feeling itself that is not attached to or need anything to generate it. Same as in wisdom, tranquility and the rest.

Insights - #14

Don’t try to find friends, make …

Insights -#13

The human mind has the habit of conjuring up reasons for not doing things that it believes does not yield benefits to the self. It’s normally a by-product of procrastination, laziness and attachment to unfounded principles. It often takes a mistake for one to realize what one should have or should not have done …

Insights - #12

Watch your mind, listen to your heart and follow your destiny …

Insights - #11

The power to create good is a divine gift, the generosity to allow others to partake is a blessing and the growth of compassion within is an endowment. To achieve our goals, focus on the right means and not the end. Then, there will be no room for disappointment in our hearts, but plenty of room for hope in our spirits. We’ll then be able to see the causes of failure and this visionary wisdom will guide us through life.

On Insights - #10

If you keep insisting on saying what you want to say and not listen to what others have to say, you will gradually find less and less people listening to you. Sadly, this is one aspect of human behavior that causes the breakdown of relationships and most people are not aware of it until its too late …

On Insights - #9

If anything goes wrong, for heaven’s sake don’t blame God. Blame yourself first, then decide whether to blame or forgive your Guru …

On Insights - #8

You may have rights, but its people who allow you to exercise them. If and when they do, be courteous and thank them. It goes a long way …

On Insights - #7

If your destination is everything, you’ll go through emptiness and get nowhere. If your destination is emptiness, you’ll go through everything and get there. That I believe is enlightenment …

On Insights - #6

Protect not yourself, with armed bodyguards, barricades, fortresses and the like, but with your inner wisdom. For all you know you have nothing to protect yourself from, except from yourself ...

On Insights - #5

Strive to consistency improve, enhance and amplify the goodness of whatever we do and apply them to our daily lives. Otherwise, sources of problems which we are not aware of can arise, and later we wonder why our life sucks …

On Insights - #4

Some people, because of their nature and attitude, do not attract mentors but enemies and leeches that will leave when they’ve had their fill. It's sad …

On Insights - #3

Is your life worth living? Take this simple test and be honest. Get a month calendar and at the end of each day, put a “tick” on the date/day if it’s good, a “cross” if it’s bad and a circle if it’s neither. At the end of the month count the number of markings. Remember, more positive things are achieved on good days, you are at peace with yourself on the “neither” days and probably stressed on bad days. When days become months and months become years, you’ll get the answer.

On Insights - #2

In any work place, one may be fully qualified but professionalism demands working well with people. In dealing with people, to build is to introduce positive changes gradually and not instantaneously demolishing existing systems and replace. Similarly, you can’t motivate people if more than half of them whom you’re intending to don’t like your face.

On Insights - #1

Some people look into the mirror and see a halo above their heads, while others looking at them see horns growing out above their ears. Usually, such people are unable to work well with others without realizing why, because what they see of themselves is more of a delusion than an illusion ...

On Motivation and Inspiring People

Often in our work or life, it is very difficult to motivate and inspire the people we intend to if they don’t like, agree or get along with us. It’s due to the preset image they have of us. Most of us don’t realize that and are unable to understand why we don’t succeed. Our image precedes us and if we have no positive track record to show, our credibility is often questioned. The solution is not readily found in the problem. So, we need to “reformat”; to make ourselves “likeable”. This can only be done by caring for, sharing with and helping others without any negative agendas. Most of us tend to argue that it is others who are bad and will always take advantage and/or pick on our weaknesses and do us in. Not so. It is we, who are unconsciously doing that. If we can be aware of that and accept it, we should then make it a point to correct ourselves. We would be surprise how soon we can see the results. 

On Happiness & Sadness

It’s not a question of being happy or sad; it's a question of making what you think or feel happiness is last as long as possible, and that of sadness, as short as possible.
Happiness that is derived from simple things or situations lasts and stays longer than from complex ones. This is primarily due to the abundance of the simple things within our reach that can make us happy. It is our minds (when tinted with greed and steered by our ego) that make happiness a convoluted issue. We fail to realize that the more intense the feeling of happiness, the shorter will be its duration. An untrained mind doesn’t recognize that the low intensity feeling of happiness has a longer duration. Those who have undergone self-realization will appreciate the simplicity in the nature of happiness. Otherwise, it’s easy to conclude that the feeling of sadness always lasts longer than happiness because our minds are more aware of the pain and suffering related to it rather than the ecstasy related to happiness. That’s why happiness is often said to be “fleeting”. The inevitability of change and problems that are part of our daily lives add further dimensions to the incidence of our happiness and sadness. Those who are able to see, understand and accept such nature of things will take a positive stand and choose the right path. The result? They will experience a more pronounced and prolonged feeling of happiness. They’re blessed …