Most of us think we know what “Conflict” is, but don’t realise that it is one of the significant causes of our unhappiness, dissatisfaction and misery in life. Conflict is an affliction of the mind that creeps in silently, unsuspectingly and unknowingly as one becomes attached to one’s values. It is a byproduct of knowledge and intelligence; and it increases in intensity directly proportionate to the advancement of these two faculties.
When values (doesn’t matter whether right or wrong) are steadfastly and dogmatically held and used as references, anything that is not in line becomes conflicting; for example, in the explosive expressions of conflict caused by religious fanaticism. The “Mind-conflict” is readily translated into “action-conflict” and becomes a scourge of suffering and “unsatisfactory-ness”.
Maturity of thought, the deep understanding of our mind’s nature of attachment to values, and the conscious ability to dwell in the “Now” are some of the ways to mitigate this affliction. However, it is saddening to note that a great many minds dwell in and thrive on conflict.
No conflict? … You can’t argue with a person with a conscious mind. (Tolle, Eckhart – A New Earth, Penguin Books, 2005)
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The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.
Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which always is as it is. There is the situation or the fact, and here are my thoughts about it. Instead of making up stories, stay with the facts. For example, “I am ruined” is a story. It limits you and prevents you from taking effective action. “I have fifty cents left in my bank account” is a fact. Facing facts is always empowering. Be aware that what you think, to a large extent, creates the emotions that you feel. See the link between your thinking and your emotions. Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.
Learn to agree to disagree.
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